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Do It Now
by Suzy Cohen, RPh
Do you know
how many New
succeed at keeping?
Practically none. I’ve
never been a believer
in resolutions. I think
you should just do it
What do you think the reason is
that we do not keep our New Year’s
There are two reasons. The main one
is our self-defeating stories, and two,
habits that we’ve held for years. One of
my favorite books on this topic is The
Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg.
Next, let’s look at some of what Isaiah
Hankel has to say on the power of our
self-stories, he’s just released a new book,
The Science of Intelligent Achievement:
How Smart People Focus, Create and
Grow Their Way to Success (Capstone
2018). One of my favorite quotes from
Mr. Hankel is: In order to change your
big story, you have to change the little
You know which stories don’t you?
Have you ever heard yourself say any of
I’ll never be thin because I’ve been
overweight for 16 yeas now.
It’s more important that I’m available
for him now, I’ll concentrate on me later.
I hate myself, I hate my body... I’m so
By telling yourself these negative
stories, or even thinking them, you give
yourself the freedom to abuse yourself
and remain in toxic relationships, eat
fattening food and keep drinking or
smoking. Why should you bother, you
always fail anyway, don’t you?
See what I mean... if you refuse to
change those stories, then I suggest
you not make any resolutions for 2018
because you’re destined for failure, then
you will feel even more badly about
But if you’re ready and willing to
dispense with the negative thinking,
and forgive your past failures, then
let January 1 be your day for change.
Two years ago, I decided I’d declutter
my home a little bit more. I like things
neat and organized. If you too want
to organize your home, read this, The
Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up by
We don’t actually overcome, or break
a bad habit. We merely replace it with
another one. And amazingly enough,
those new, healthy habits become
ingrained in our behavior in about three
weeks, so don’t give up too soon. Set
reasonable goals for yourself though.
Remember, nobody’s perfect, and if they
are, they’ve been photoshopped.
So this January 1, sit down and write
a list of the negative thoughts that make
up the mental chatter in your mind. Write
all of them on paper or type and print
your list. Vow to never say these words
again and burn them. Literally, tur n them
to ash. Then create a vision board using
pictures that you cut out of magazines to
represent all the wonderful things you’d
like to create in your life. Dreams can
come true if you believe that they can.
Cheers to a happy, healthy new year.
This information is not intended to
treat, cure or diagnose your condition.
Suzy Cohen is the author of The
24-Hour Pharmacist and is a registered
pharmacist. To contact her, visit www.
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Dr. Connie Is In
Q: What is
is known as
developed by Dr. Francine Shapiro, who
discovered that bi-lateral stimulation of
eye movement can counter distressing
and disturbing thoughts. EMDR has been
proven through much research to be
highly effective, especially for short-term
trauma. Many subjects who have been
treated using EMDR have found relief and
found the courage to let go and move on
from the disturbance.
When a trauma gets stuck in our
central nervous system, these disturbing
memories keep us “frozen in time.”
When we relive a traumatic moment,
conscious or unconscious, we feel as if it’s
happening all over again.
The details of the initial experience
can come flooding into the mind. EMDR
is an eight-step process that desensitizes
us to the negative emotions and thoughts
associated without traumatic experience
through rapid eye movement, and
restores the subject with more positive
feelings and beliefs. Some subjects only
need one EMDR session, while more
traumatic events may require several
sessions until the disturbances are
subsided. A trauma never 100 percent
goes away, however, through EMDR,
this treatment shows promise in relieving
symptoms that may otherwise linger for
years to come.
For more information on EMDR and
to find a practitioner who uses EMDR,
visit www.emdria.org. Dr. Connie has
been an EMDR therapist for 22 years.
Constance Clancy-Fisher, EdD is
a licensed mental health therapist,
hypnotherapist, author and holistic
stress management instructor. If you
have a question, email Constance at
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