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Mom And Me
by Lizzie and Pryce
Lizzie and Pryce answer your ques-
tions and give advice about aging
concerns from a two-generational
perspective. A mother and daughter
team, Lizzie is a retired RN and health
educator, and Pryce is a licensed psy-
chotherapist in private practice who
specializes in the care of elders and
people with chronic illnesses.
Dear Mom & Me,
I guess we should feel blessed be-
cause our boomer children have been
very successful in their chosen fields.
But that isn’t always the case. These
adults are so self-confident, and be-
cause of their success in their chosen
profession, think they absolutely know
everything about everything and what
they don’t know is really not important.
They never ask us for any advice, and if
we volunteer our experience in our own
area of specialty, we are quickly told our
experience is irrelevant.
We are quickly becoming disinterest-
ed and now hardly care what they do or
say, but we question how these people
deal with each other. When they all feel
only they know what is right, how do
they deal with other people?
This problem I have also observed.
Many young people think that the world
started the day they were born and that
older people are absolutely stupid. Many
older people do not have the formal
education like the younger generation,
but they have far more common sense.
Many of the younger generation were
given assertiveness training, even before
kindergarten, and I guess it is a dog-eat-
dog, eat-or-be-eaten environment and it
is all survival of the fittest.
Aren’t you glad that we lived in a
kinder and gentler world?
I am convinced there are always two
sides to every story. While I hear and
understand your side of the story with
your adult children, I can guess your
adult children’s side of the story. My
first guess is that they feel you do not
treat them as adults but as kids that
have not graduated from middle school
despite being well educated and success-
ful in their own right, professionally and
The parent-child relationship is the
most basic and – at times – the most
difficult relationship to understand. It
seems to me changing the way you
communicate with your adult children
is a better choice then not talking with
them and becoming resentful. Learning
to live and love as a family is a life-long
journey, ever changing with the different
twists and turns that life brings.
Lizzie and Pryce’s email address is
Got A Problem?
Dr. Connie Is In
asked out by a guy
and I don’t want to
go, I don’t know
how to turn him
down and not hurt
Can you give me
how to handle this?
A: Most of us at some time or an-
other have been asked out and we just
didn’t feel it was a good fit – for what-
ever the reason – and didn’t know how
to handle this delicate senario. We don’t
want the person doing the asking to feel
rejected or hurt; on the other hand, we
don’t want to make excuses and lead
the person to believe that another time
you might accept. I have seen too many
situations where this is a waste of time
for you both.
An appropriate way to handle turn-
ing down a guy nicely is to simply be
honest. Be direct with saying something
like, “I am flattered, however, I don’t
feel that we are a match,” or “Thank
you for thinking of me, however, I don’t
think we are quite a fit.”
This keeps it short and sweet. You
don’t want to find yourself beating
around the bush giving excuses or trying
to lead the person on. If you are face to
face, look him straight in the eye, and
say what you need to say kindly and
with a sincere smile. Your body lan-
guage will reveal you are in alignment
with what you say. Then, don’t stay
around and linger. It’s good to move
on and that way you are not wasting
anyone’s time and energy. If it is over
the phone or e-mail, he just won’t see
you, yet you can convey the same direct
message. Most important, be respectful
When in doubt, turn into your inner
guidance and reverse it. How would you
like to be treated if you asked someone
out? This will help you to handle these
situations with grace and you can feel
good about your decision.
Constance Clancy-Fisher, EdD is
a licensed mental health therapist,
hypnotherapist, author and holistic
stress management instructor. She can
be reached at constanceclancyfisher@
Doctor and Dietitian
by Ross Hauser, MD
and Marion Hauser, MS, RD
There has been quite a surge of
interest in the affect diet soda has
on the body recently. What does
it all mean, and is diet soda a good
choice? In efforts to lose weight, many
folks turn to diet soda, in a seemingly
health-conscious choice to save all of
those unwanted calories found in sug-
ary soft drinks, and yet still satisfy that
sweet, bubbly craving.
Some reputable health websites tell
us a few diet sodas a day won’t hurt.
However, the latest research actually
does point to the fact that daily con-
sumption of diet soda is associated with
significantly greater risks of Metabolic
Syndrome and Type 2 Diabetes, in addi-
tion to other harmful health impacts.
The consumption of artificially sweet-
ened beverages has also been linked to
obesity and increased waist circumfer-
ence. How is that possible? The artificial
sweeteners confuse your brain. Diet
drinks alter the reward processing of
sweet taste in the brain, leaving it desir-
ing more and more sweet to be satis-
fied. Over the course of a decade, the
waist circumference of those who drink
diet soda daily, and even those who
drink it occasionally, has been shown
to increase three to four times that of
Consider also the psychological fac-
tor. If the soda has no calories, then
there is the sense of freedom to indulge
or to justify the extra slice of pizza or
big scoop of ice cream for dessert.
Diet soda is simply not a healthy
choice. It does not do your body any
good, but can ruin your smile, give you
headaches, weaken your bones, put on
the pounds and leave you wanting for
more. Stick to purified water or natural
sparkling water for those who crave the
This information is not intended to
treat, cure or diagnose your condition.
Caring Medical and Rehabilitation
Services has two locations: one in Oak
Park, Illinois, and one in Fort Myers.
It was established in 1991 by Ross
Hauser, MD, and Marion Hauser, MS,
RD. They can be reached at info@
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